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When is enough enough?

April 18th, 2012 at 12:56 am

There was a letter in an advice column this week where the writer said they had invited neighbors over for dinner multiple times, but it was never reciprocated, although these same people invite others over. The writer asked when was it OK to stop or something to that effect and how to maintain the friendship.

Good question. We have a couple we have had over multiple times. She is a self professed "great cook" -- her words, not mine, and she has invited other folks over to their home for meals and then tells us about it. She goes into detail about all the things she did to make their meal enjoyable and how pleased their guests were.

When we have invited them over, the dinner conversation usually consists of the "great cook" telling me how she makes the same dish or similar dish and implying how much better it is.

I am thinking she is just plain rude. I'm not claiming to be a gourmet by any means, but unless something can cause an allergic reaction, I would think one would hold one's tongue. Guess I have been wrong about this all these years.

So, when does one decide to stop inviting someone over?

10 Responses to “When is enough enough?”

  1. Swimgirl Says:

    You can stop now. Smile
    I'm a great cook! You're invited for dinner anytime!

  2. wowitsawonderfullife Says:


  3. laura Says:

    It has been enough already! Smile

  4. rob62521 Says:

    Sounds great, Swimgirl! What time is dinner? LOL

    Thank you for the validation?

  5. snafu Says:

    What's the point of inviting this couple for dinner? Use your effort for a couple who will appreciate your effort, ooh, ahhh and smile in delight over every bite. That makes it all worthwhile!

  6. ThriftoRama Says:

    Um, yeah, these folks don't sound like real friends, or they have any intention of becoming real friends. I'd say that dinner was the last dinner.

  7. rob62521 Says:

    Sometimes one is too close to make a rational decision. Thank you for helping me see that these folks aren't friends.

  8. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    Good for you! Someone told me once "time spend doing some things can't be spent doing other things". Great that you are taking your time back.

  9. Jerry Says:

    Yesterday. Wink People like that don't deserve a second invitation, frankly, it just leads to more frustration over time. Friends do not treat each other that way, and it is just plain rude! If you have the insurance of some people who are gracious guests, and who reciprocate your hospitality, then you are in a much better place. I'm glad that you will not worry about those folks any more. Some people just have no manners, unfortunately.

  10. baselle Says:

    I have to agree with the rest, but with a twist. Anybody can call themselves a "great cook". Methinks the reason you haven't been invited in turn is that you really are a great cook and you will blow her cover.

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