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Today is our anniversary

June 15th, 2011 at 04:33 pm

Twenty-one years ago we took our marriage vows and today we celebrate that decision. I'm glad we did. I am married to my best friend and can't imagine my life without him.

Our wedding was not big. We had my mom and dad and godparents and his mom, brother, sister-in-law, and nephew. We had a reception for family and friends. We married in his mom's back yard and the reception was at a local community center where my parents lived. My folks didn't have money for a wedding so we paid for almost everything but the cake -- two sheet cakes is what we had.

Instead of a fancy dress, I wore something I had. I bought the cups, plates, and flatware at a discount store, as well as the decorations. A friend and I decorated the room.

We used the money to put a down payment on our first house. When the bank asked us back then if we had 20%, they were surprised that we did. Our goal was to buy less of a house than we could afford, and fix it up and still do things.

Twenty one years later I think we did OK. We are still married, we have moved to another house that is paid for, and we can do things we enjoy.

Sometimes I wish I had the big church wedding because I see the ones on television and in the movies and think they are beautiful. But in the long run, I'm married and we are happy and I think a lifetime of love and security is worth far more than an album of pretty pictures and possibly debt if we had gone wild.

Guess I'm a pragmatist at heart.

11 Responses to “Today is our anniversary”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Happy Anniversary!!

  2. NJDebbie Says:

    I agree! May you have many years together! ((HUGS))

  3. Petunia 100 Says:

    The marriage is much more important than the wedding! Happy anniversary to you and your dh.

    You could always renew your vows and have a beautiful ceremony if you would like. Like perhaps to mark your 25th? That gives you 48 months to save and plan.

  4. CB in the City Says:


    Although the formal weddings are beautiful, they are also stressful, and I think simple personal ceremonies are the best.

  5. Ima saver Says:

    Happy anniversary! I too had a very simple wedding at home with a few guests, food, cake and liquor. It cost us about $100 and I have never regretted not having a big wedding! Who wants to have to pay for a wedding for years? Like you, we used our money to buy a house!

  6. snafu Says:

    Congratulations, how wonderful to have reached a significant milestone. Enjoy the day and the relationship for the next 21 years

  7. My English Castle Says:

    Happy Anniversary! I'm with you on the simple weddings.
    I can't tell you how many hugely expensive elaborate weddings I've been to where the marriages didn't last long. Often I think women (especially women, but some men too) want the wedding and all the fuss. When the marriage is the focus, things are often different!

  8. scottish girl Says:

    Happy Anniversary!

  9. Banker Gurl Says:

    Today is our anniversary as well. But ours is only 4 years, not 21 lol.


  10. rob62521 Says:

    Thank you all for your kind comments! We went out to dinner at our favorite restaurant. My brother and his wife surprised us with a bouquet of flowers and sat and ate with us and the owner of the restaurant treated all of us to dessert. It was a wonderful time.

  11. LuckyRobin Says:

    Well, I'm a day or two late, but congratulations. I am glad it was a nice day for you and your husband.

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