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May 7th, 2012 at 02:36 pm

All my life I have struggled with weight problems and self esteem. Recently I attended a workshop and this nice looking guy was very polite and kind to me.

Don't get me wrong, I am not looking for man -- I am happily married. But after this encounter, I questioned why this person seemed interested. I usually stay in the background because I don't like being in the limelight. And it is often better to be unnoticed because I don't want to be made fun of.

So, I have wondered why anyone would treat me so nicely when I am certainly not beautiful. And then it makes me feel even worse about myself.

DH and I have discussed how society has ingrained in us how beauty is so important. It seems we are judged so much on how we look.

Those shows where the little girls are dolled up to look far more mature kind of worry me because will this make these children struggle with their self esteem?

We ate breakfast with my brother and his wife and the topic came up where a former boss hired a good looking gal who had no skills simply because she was eye candy. This was a few years ago.

Some of the articles I've seen state that good looking people are more successful because people respond to them more favorably. Perhaps that is true in many cases.

Hopefully as I meet people today, I will look beyond appearances and accept them as they are. And maybe, just maybe, I'll accept myself as well.

2 Responses to “Appearances”

  1. snafu Says:

    Is it possible that all that malarkey is really entrenched marketing to persuade us to buy products which transfers our money into someone else's pocket? Do you really believe that buying a certain brand of shampoo will transform your hair into the model's flowing locks?

    Depending on culture and custom, what is 'beautiful' has different standards. Are employers really so shallow that they hire on looks rather than competence? Yikes, that is a certain route to business failure.

  2. baselle Says:

    I think we have 'unlink' kindness/politeness/gratitude from beauty and from flirting in general. Sounds like the young man was raised properly, which warms my heart that somebody was.

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