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What manners?

August 12th, 2014 at 03:47 am

Over the weekend we went to eat at a fancy restaurant to help family celebrate. Although more money than we preferred to spend, we had the money and it wasn't an issue.

What bothered me was the lack of manners displayed by a couple other guests. One person demanded refills and extra bread from the server, no please, no thank you, and did not even acknowledge the server. The server was attentive so there was no reason for this.Another was just like this...and between not talking to people around them, but too busy checking their phones and chewing with open mouths, I was appalled by this behavior. I know these people were raised better than this.

I didn't think it was my place to point out the lack of manners, but I will say it did spoil a good meal sitting across from these people.

5 Responses to “What manners?”

  1. My English Castle Says:

    When I'm with people like that (cue some family members), I try to go out of my way to thank the server--or catch his/her eye to show you don't approve. Difficult situation for you.

  2. PatientSaver Says:

    Well, if you think about it, who still says please or thank you? This happens all the time when I go out and about running my errands at various stores. If I return some food that was spoiled when I bought it, would you think I'd get a "I'm sorry about that" or something to that effect? No, the refund is processed with a grumpy attitude, like I wasn't the one who was inconvenienced.

    Nearly every company in every industry spouts off about how they "care" about their customer service, but in truth, it's sorely lacking. I do see some singular standouts, which I can only chalk up to special training of staff. Like my local Caraluzzi's, where the cashiers are inordinately helpful and pleasant. It's a family-owned chain of just 3 small supermarkets. With so much competition in the area, they must realize that to make it with their extremely high prices, they've got to offer a different kind of shopping experience. And so they do.

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    There are all types of people, and not everyone grew up the same way. I do feel for all service staff, even those that aren't so great at it.

  4. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I grew up where the words thank you, your welcome and please were ingrained in us. Not only the words, but HOW they were to be spoken - looking the person in the eye. When someone does something for me, I can't help but say thank you or thanks. I guess not everyone grew up like that, because I know when I was teaching I would insist on my students using those words as well, and it was an uphill battle with many.

    It is amazing what a little note or word of appreciation can do for a person. This is however something that some people just don't get.

  5. PatientSaver Says:

    Yes, I've also noticed the general lack of eye contact from people in retail. I'm not saying they don't have a hard job, they absolutely do, but I hate it when someone says "Have a nice day" and they don't even look at you!

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