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June 29th, 2021 at 03:09 pm

I made my husband cry.


It wasn’t planned. I wasn’t attempting to do that at all. 


Last week a friend died. She had a good long life, although as humans we often crave to live longer and wish our loved ones do as well. When her daughter called to tell me of her passing, there was a catch in her throat and my heart went out to her. 


This friend was the person I wished I had had as a mother. I know you can’t always know what really goes on in people’s homes behind closed doors, but her treatment of me had always been nothing but kind. She seemed wise. I met her and her family at church and she was the one who struck up the friendship. I was kind of shy to begin with and due to never feeling like I’m good enough, suffered poor self esteem. She was just nice to me. She would seek me out to speak to me. When I was in college she wrote me letters. When I student taught and lived out of town, she said if the weather was bad, don’t drive in bad conditions, but come stay at her house because she had an extra bedroom. When I came back after college and lived here, we kept up with each other and after her husband died, we would sometimes go out to eat or I would go and visit her. 


Last week when I stopped in to see her family, it about broke my heart. One son was in tears. The other two sons as caretakers were wan. They were exhausted. What they did, they did for love and they were kind and respected her wishes. 


I held things together talking to the daughter on the phone, and even afterwards. I didn’t break down seeing the sons. Even at the visitation I was OK. But near the end of the funeral, I broke down and cried. And as a result, my husband cried with me because he said when I hurt, he hurts. As I said, I didn’t plan to make him cry.


My friend was ready to go; she was 98 ½ and her health was declining. As Christians, we believe we will go to heaven. It’s just that I will miss her kindness. I wonder if she knew how she touched my life and made me dream of what it would be like to have a “normal” family life. 


I just hope that somehow I’m showing an equal amount of kindness to people so that maybe, just maybe they’ll miss me too when I die.


9 Responses to “Kindness”

  1. Wink Says:

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend, she was your earth angel. Kindness shown, and received, can really change a person's life. Take care.

  2. Lots of Ideas Says:

    I am sorry for your loss.

    Imagine how all those she loved are rejoicing at being reunited with her in heaven.

    I can tell from your posts that you spread kindness everywhere you go through countless small acts of giving, so your friend mentored you well.

  3. LuckyRobin Says:

    I'm sorry, sweetie. That's so hard.

  4. Fern Says:

    Thanks for sharing this sweet story. I've had a friend like this for many, many years. Although long-distance, she has always been a huge supporter of mine, and for that, I am eternally grateful, because as life goes on, you realize you won't run into many people like that who seem to accept you unconditionally.

  5. CB in the City Says:

    I'm so sorry. It's hard to lose an important person in your life, even if she was ready to go. You were lucky to have her, and she was probably lucky to have you, too.

  6. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    i am so sorry about the loss of your dearly beloved friend

  7. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I am sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like a really neat lady.

  8. terri77 Says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a remarkable person & I’m sure she saw you for the special person you are, as well.

  9. rob62521 Says:

    Thank you, everyone, for your kind words!

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