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Lots of changes

April 26th, 2024 at 04:09 pm

Life has been lots of changes. I haven't posted because I've been sort of overwhelmed, physically, emotionally, and financially.

After many years of marriage, my spouse and I divorced. Fortunately it was amiable and mutually agreed upon. We divided things as equally as possible, but these were big changes for both of us.

I have discovered a couple of things -- you find out who your real friends are when you do this. I have asked people not to take sides. We do not hate each other. You also get asked very personal questions by people who really have no business asking them. Because our financial picture changed, we decided to reassess our expenses and cancelled things. One person immediately asked me who gets the house? It wasn't any of her business. 

I also discovered who really cares. I had many offers of places to stay while I figured out where I would live. It was both generous and touching. I had offers of people to help me move or whatever I needed. And fortunately many people just wanted the best for both of us which is what one hopes when something like this happens.

Starting over is both scary and exciting. As we know, change brings lots of different things in one's life.


13 Responses to “Lots of changes”

  1. Wink Says:

    (((Hugs))) Rob! I hope you find peace and contentment moving forward with your new life. I was divorced many years ago and it was certainly a journey. I have missed your presence here! Take care.

  2. Dido Says:

    I'm sorry you have been going through a rough patch, but glad the divorce was amicable and mutual. Best wishes to you as you move forward! (Hugs)

  3. anonymous Says:

    I wish you well and finding a path for your future. I am so sorry that your relationship came to that outcome, though. Take care and be kind to yourself. {I am sending you virtual hugs.}

  4. mumof2 Says:

    sorry you are going through this...but yes you sure do find out who your real friends glad it was amicable for you both...I wish you both an amazing future whatever that may look like now

  5. Petunia 100 Says:

    Yes, those are some very big changes! Sometimes life can take an unexpected turn. I hope that all is going well for you. {{hugs}}

  6. Suemn Says:

    I'm very sorry to hear of your divorce Robin. I know it must be hard and I wish both you and your husband the best for whatever is to come.

  7. MonkeyMama Says:

    Oh wow, that is a lot of change. Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. Wishing you well on your new journey.

  8. CB in the City Says:

    Oh, I am very sorry and surprised, too! You seemed so solid, at least in the virtual life! I am divorced, too -- it happened way back in 1984, and it wasn't mutual or amiable, so in that sense you are starting out a step ahead. I wish you all good things in the future as you go through these changes in your life.

  9. Brunette Says:

    Wow! I'm sorry for your divorce, but glad it was amicable. I wish you healing and joy in your future.

  10. LuckyRobin Says:

    I am sorry to read about this. It must be difficult whether it was agreed upon or not. You are such a kind and thoughtful person, always have been to me, anyway, so I don't like to read of anything in life hitting you hard. Dividing your net worth in half and starting over would be overwhelming, but you have always struck me as a strong woman. I hope your friends and family give you the emotional resources you need to keep you going as you figure out what your next steps in life are going to be. (((HUGS)))

  11. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    I am so sorry for this difficult time. I hope that you take care of yourself and glad it ended amicably. Sometimes when it's messy you get pulled in between.

  12. LifeBalance Says:

    Rob, I'm so sorry your relationship ended. You've shared events with your x-DH over the years so I feel like I know you. Both of you are good folks so I'm not surprised that you're being mature and caring during the transition process. Take care of yourself. It's good that you have your church community for support.

  13. ceejay74 Says:

    Oh wow, no surprise you're overwhelmed -- that's huge! Glad things seem to be going pretty well with it. I wish you luck and happiness going forward!

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